Friday, October 30, 2009

How did I decide?

How did I decide?

I have been putting off this question for 3 years now. 3 years and still counting, all my friends, colleagues and cousins want an answer to this question. I didn't have an answer back then, and I do not have an answer, even today.

How did I know that it would be him - I said I don't know.
How did I know that he would be the perfect one - I said I don't know.
How did I know that my story will be a "Happily Ever After" one - I said I don't know.
How did I know that I would have not found a better person than him - My answer does not change, I really don't know.

With so many I don't know's as my answer, I still take the most important decision in life. I decide to spend the rest of my life with N. And that is the only thing I KNOW!

And who can have answers to those questions anyway? And even if some intellectual soul has, can they still answer questions like - How do they know they will not fight over smelly socks and messed up closets; How do they know there will be no arguments over TV remote when one wants to watch a cricket match and the other a bollywood flick; How do they know that discussing daily chores a few years down the line will be a romantic conversation?

When life is surrounded with so many 'I don't know' answers, why bother answering those questions then.

But there is something amidst all these 'I don't knows' that I can share - I know that I want to be with this person because I know that he is smart, sweet and sensitive. Here is someone who I don't know about later, but for now looks pretty darn good. Here is someone who is as crazy as me. Here is someone who will let me do things I like doing. Here is someone who I have 360 degree freedom to disagree with. Here is someone who will not put the phone down until we have resolved an argument. Here is someone who will neither sleep nor let me sleep over a fight. Here is someone who I connect to. Here is someone I want to speak to first thing in the morning and before going to bed. Here is someone that complements me. To me these 'I Know' answers are far more important than anything else.